The importance of "Communication Skill "

 Words we speak show how we feel about each other, and unkind words hurt both the person who hears them and the person who says them. On the other hand, kind words encourage others and build up the people who them. If you become a good communicator, you'll win more friends. YoUll impress your teachers and parents, and you will have an even better chance of getting a job in an interview. It makes sense to learn and communicate clearly and effectively. say you throw a stick into the ocean, the stick comes back to you. Words are like that. What you throw out eventually comes back to you. It's true that sometimes people won't answer your kind word with kindness. But over the long run, if you communicate kindness, you'll attract kind words in return. If We communicate in many ways, any movements you make with your body, any sounds that come out of your mouth, the expression you wear, and sometimes the things you think or feel, can send a message to someone. Different ways to be a Good Communicator: 

1. Speak Clearly. Look at the person you're speaking to. 

2. Listen attentively to what the other person says, and respond accordingly. 

3. Maintain eye contact at a mutually comfortable level. Somewhere between staring and avoiding each other's eyes.

4. Do your best to understand what the other person is saying. If there's something you don't understand, ask about it.

 5. Be alert to body language and verbal cues your's and other person's. Look alert and interested. Watch for signs when the other person is loosing interest, wants to change the subject, or needs to end the conversation. 

6. Give feedback when you are asked. Ask for feedback, too. 

7. Give examples when required to support what you're saying. 

8. Take turns to speak, Use simpler words and sentences while speaking. 

9. Listen for non - verbal requests. 

10. Sometimes communication can be non-verbal, hence you can communicate with feelings, expressions and gestures. 

Let us also look at a few don'ts to keep in mind: Don't be nosy. Don't gossip or pry. Don't interrupt. Don't change the subject. Don't contradict or correct what the person is saying. Don't brag. Don't fall asleep. 

Different ways to break through a Communications Roadblock: 

1. Express anger, disappointment, or frustration in "I- messages" ("I don't like it when someone lies about me"), not you messages ("You've been lying about me"). 

2. Focus on the problem ("I don't like it when my room is messed up"), not the person ("I knew it wouldn't work to share the room with you"). 

3. Always give the other person a way out. (I'm sure you didn't mean to hurt my feelings"). Don't back him or her into a corner ("I know you did that on purpose"). 

4. Listen without being defensive. Everyone makes mistakes including yourself. 

5. Don't allow yourself to be a victim. Don't take the blame for something you didn't do. Stick up for yourself without attacking the other person. 

6. Say you're sorry if you need to. 

7. Look for the good in the other person, even when this is hard to do. Make it clear that you care about him or her. ("You are my friend and I really want to help"). 

8. Look for a common ground - something you can agree on.

9. Try to stay calm no matter what.

 10. Brainstorm solutions together. Try to reach an agreement on what's best to do. Carry out your agreement.

 11. If you're best efforts don't succeed, get an adult involved to help you to talk through your problem. 

12. If spoken communication isn't going anywhere, try writing a letter.

This is a story which would explain the importance of communication in our life, Shekhar was student right from the early stage of his life, he was the most talented person in the class who could solve the problems in math's, good at writing stories, poems and essays in English and was a high scorer in the class who always scored more than 90% in all his examinations was also good in sports a bright and he conducted at his school. Though he had all these skills he was poor in expressing his views to other people in English because he was weak in speaking English. On the other hand, the student named Sahil, was very average in his studies. He would just manage to clear all his examinations and was very playful in class too. But he was brilliant in speaking English and expressing his views with English as the medium of communication, which he learned from English coaching classes and the British English courses which were offered to him at his higher secondary school. Shekhar, cleared the higher secondary examinations with almost 90% marks and Sahil, cleared with only 55%. Though Shekhar, got the government seat and was even eligible to get scholarships from the college, Sahil, managed to get a seat in the same college by paying more fees and getting the seat through donation. Both Shekhar and Sahil became friends and started to share their views but still both couldn't get the talent they lacked the most, Shekhar always remained the top scorer of the class while Sahil,was brilliant in his communication skills but managed to clear all the exams in margin level. 

After two years both were called for an interview by one of the top reputed company in the city and the company promised to pay about 4.75 lakhs annually for the one who gets selected at the interview. The interview process began and the first round was to talk on a common topic for about 10 minutes and the topic given was Technology and how it is a boon to our society, while Shekhar gathered the points he studied at school to talk on the topic, Sahil, used the day to day happenings in his life to enhance the topic and got an edge on the interview over Shekhar. The second round was an aptitude test in which both of them were asked about the English related questions and both of them were successful in this process, as already said Shekhar, was good in writing so he cleared the round and as Sahil, was experienced in attending the British English courses he was also successful in clearing this round. The final round was that of a panel interview where there were about six interviewers and they had to test the ability of the students one by one. The first person to go was Shekhar, the interviewers asked about various aspects like educational qualifications, family background, some questions based on the subject they studied "Your Favourite Teacher" and "Your Role Model". Although Shekhar answered all the basic questions well, he was not able to speak on the other topics he was asked for more than 5 minutes each. He was rejected. On the other hand, Sahil excelled in explaining every single aspect he was asked. He was selected by the company. Though Shekhar, was brilliant from the start of his career, Sahil was excellent in his communication skills which gave him the edge in that placement process.